Fill Your Life with ADVENTURE

Adventure

The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

Fill your life with adventure! Make a bucket list of everything you want to do, be or have in your lifetime. Then pick out the top ten, assign a date to them, and make it happen!

I always wanted to visit Hawaii, but I knew we didn’t have the money. I didn’t let that limiting belief stop me. I affirmed that by my 25th wedding anniversary I would visit Hawaii. A year or so before my 25th anniversary, I started researching the different islands, looking at pictures of people having fun on the islands, getting brochures, reading hotel reviews, comparing airfare and car rental rates, everything I could think of to immerse myself in the experience of what it would be like to visit Hawaii. Where do you think I was on my 25th anniversary?

Nope! I didn’t make that deadline, but I didn’t give up either…

On my 30th anniversary, I was in Maui going to luaus, hiking in the rain forest, watching cliff divers, surfers, and snorkelers commune with sea creatures! I rode in a submarine for the first time in my life. We went to the bottom of the ocean. It was so cool. It was like being inside a giant fish aquarium. Coral reef and colorful fish were everywhere!

I got the bejeebers scared out of me and felt on top of the world at the same time on Hana Road. It is what I always pictured “paradise” to look like, but the road to get there is wild! It seems too narrow for two vehicles and is the curviest road I have ever been on. One side of the road is the mountainside. The other side are cliffs straight down to the ocean! We were in a yellow Mustang convertible with the top down, which was exhilarating. I closed my eyes and gripped the prayer bar every time we passed a vehicle, but the view was worth the trip! Roadside waterfalls, tropical gardens, breathtaking views, beauty beyond belief. So colorful and serene. It is what I picture heaven looks like.

The sunsets on the beach were like artist paintings. A mesmerizing golden sky tinged with pink and purple clouds that slow danced above the gentle ocean waves. Fisherman on shore with giant cane poles waiting for the tide to bring in the evening catch. It made for a Kodak moment that I wanted to stay in forever. 

And the pineapples. WOW! The Maui Gold pineapples are the sweetest, juiciest pineapples I have ever tasted in my life. My mouth is watering right now thinking about them!

Visiting Maui after years of dreaming and planning felt surreal. So many new experiences rolled into a few days. It was an adventure I will remember the rest of my life.

That’s just ONE adventure! I have been on many exciting adventures like being at Times Square on New Year’s Eve in 1999 after saying that is where I would be when I first heard Prince sing 1999 in the 80’s!

There was also the time I went to the first eBay Live Conference in Anaheim, California. On the way there, we stopped at the Grand Canyon, hung out in Vegas, got on stage at Universal Studios, and ran out of gas in the Mojave dessert. I’ve never lived that last one down, but it was a memorable once-in-a-lifetime adventure!

Adventures are the spice of life. I highly recommend you go on as many adventures as you can. And remember when you do what you love, every day is an adventure!

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Acting: Take 2

 

Act as if

“Act as if you were already the person you most want to be.” ~ Brian Tracy 

My last post was about the practical side of acting which can provide immense benefits in your life. This one will put your acting skills to good use! It is about the metaphysical side of acting which plays a major role in helping you live a rich life…

ACT AS IF

When you act as if, you suspend disbelief and move forward in faith. This “Rich Life” blog and upcoming book is me acting as if! I have complete faith that by acting as if I am living a rich life, the Universe will conspire on my behalf and it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy!

Acting as if can work for you or against you. It is your choice! It can be empowering or limiting. If you act as if you are poor and have a scarcity mindset, so it shall be.

What does someone with a poor mindset do? Typically they are self-centered, have a “poor me” victim mentality, pessimistic, negative self-talk, blame others, make excuses, gossip, feed on fear and drama, and complain about problems rather than seek solutions.

What does someone with a rich mindset do? They are optimistic action takers with a “can do” attitude, love to learn, generous, grateful, help others, and look for the lesson or opportunity in every adversity.

Note that someone who is “rich” by the traditional definition of having a lot of money can have a “poor” mindset which more often than not leads to sadness and despair, despite the illusion of living a rich life. Conversely, someone who may appear poor financially, can be rich in health and happiness which is the greatest wealth of all. 

What would make you feel rich? Is it driving a fancy car? You can act as if by going to the dealership and test drive your dream car! Is it living in a mansion? Call up the realtor and go check out some homes for sale in your ideal neighborhood.

Does a rich life mean travel to you? Get brochures from the visitor center where you want to go. Watch videos about that location. Join an area Facebook group and talk to the locals. Picture yourself there in your mind’s eye.

Does being rich mean having a lot of money in the bank? If so, start saving NOW. Put 20% of every dollar you make in a bank account that isn’t easy to access. Learn about compound interest. Invest in real estate, a business, or whatever your interests and research determines is a wise investment. Attend financial networking events. Read finance magazines. Join or create a mastermind group. That’s what financially rich people do!

Does the rich life include giving back and helping others? I hope so, because this will bring much happiness to you! Take 10% of that money you are saving and donate it to your favorite charity. Donate your time to a local homeless shelter, food bank, hospice, animal rescue… whatever is important to you.

When you act as if, you are the star of the show and can direct the movie of your life anywhere you want to go!

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“Suspend your disbelief and move out in faith toward your possibilities.”Dr. Ken Christian
 

Accountability

Accountability

“Accountability is the glue that ties commitment to the results.” ~ Bob Proctor

If you want to accomplish your goals, find a way to hold yourself accountable, preferably to someone else. Think about professional athletes and other top performers. They are accountable to a coach and don’t want to let others down, especially fellow teammates.

Retired Navy Seals Trainer, best selling author, and founder of SealFit, Mark Divine says we are capable of 20x more than we think we can do! But to get to 20x we need accountability. In an interview with Mark, Ramit Sethi mentioned a time when he wanted to stop during a workout. His personal trainer ADDED weights and pushed him to do more. Guess what? He did it!

One of the main reasons I created this blog is to hold myself accountable for writing a legacy book that will hopefully help my grandchildren (and anyone else paying attention) define what it means to live a rich life and do it.

Of course being accountable to ourselves is ideal, but think about it. If you don’t feel like going to the gym, do you still go if you know no one is there waiting for you and no one will complain if you wait and do it tomorrow, the next day, or Monday? Would you go to work on time or at all on perfect sunny days (or cold, rainy days when you would rather snuggle in a cozy warm bed) if you weren’t accountable to someone other than yourself?

As I think about my life over the past half century, I realize that I accomplished the most when I was accountable to someone else. At one point, I got up at 3 a.m. and worked out with my best friend. I would have never done that on my own! I showed up consistently without excuses to lead my water aerobics class every day because I knew the group of seniors counted on me and I didn’t want to let them down. I published my Break the Cycle anthology by the deadline because I tied it in with an annual charity event and group of other writers.

Accountability helps me push through procrastination and stop making excuses to cover up for my inner critic that would rather I hang out in the comfort zone which is actually not a comfortable place for anyone with ambitions.

To hold myself accountable and overcome self-limiting behavior, I convince myself that it is my moral obligation to help others by sharing my unique gifts, stories, training, and experiences. Helping others is a powerful motivator to hold yourself accountable for doing the things you want and need to do.

If you want to accomplish your goals and live the life of your dreams, accountability will help you. I think that is why we see so many 30, 60, 90 Day Challenges, life coaches, personal trainers, mentors, and accountability apps such as Asana, My Fitness Pal, and Stickk popping up everywhere. We know how distracting the Internet and our busy lives can be. Accountability can help us stay focused and achieve our goals. 

Personal development pioneer Bob Proctor suggests using a M.A.P. to stay accountable.

Accountability is one of the best ways I can think of to rise above mediocrity and do the things we know we need to do to reach our full potential and live a rich life!

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